"Only a monster could make kids lose two mothers": 31-year-old woman ends marriage when husband won't give her bio children, he blames her for leaving her stepchildren behind

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jul 6, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Most women want to be mothers one day. They want to have the experience themselves of pregnancy, of birth, and of raising their children from the moment they enter the world. Maybe it's biological, maybe it's not. Even for people who don't end up having children, there may be part of them who always misses that feeling.
 

Women get a lot of stereotypes put on them when it comes to having children. We're constantly seen as nurturing, motherly, and good with children. Some women however, just aren't like that. Some women really don't have those maternal feelings and don't have this overarching desire to have kids. And in fact, some men are really paternal and talk about having kids more often! People are people at the end of the day.
 

In the story below, the protagonist is married to a man who already has children. Although she loves her stepchildren with all her heart, it's a deep desire for her to bear children herself. Read the full story below. 

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    WIBTA for ending my marriage because I want bio kids when I have two stepkids who already lost their mom?

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    When I (31f) met my husband I was upfront that having bio kids was one of my dealbreakers. I always wanted to be a mom and if I couldn't get pregnant
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  • Sometimes the cosmos just laughs in our fate. The universe works in mysterious ways. A couple who's ready, stable, responsible, and trying could end up not having kids, but two teenagers who never had proper guidance or education could wind up pregnant in a split second. Read the full story below. 

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    naturally fertility treatments would be something I would want to do and if that wasn't something he was okay with then I wanted him to be honest. He
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    told me he would be fine with that and he wanted more kids too. He was a widower with two young kids at the time. I fell in
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    love with him and them and we married and we started trying to have children together but naturally has not worked for us. I was given a medication to try and see if that helped but it didn't.
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    Then my fertility doctor recommended we do some tests. We did the tests and we were told there is a very high chance IUI would work for us. But now my
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    husband has said he doesn't want to spend the money on that and he feels we should just be thankful for the two kids we have and call it a day.
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    When I told him my dealbreaker was still a dealbreaker he asked me how. He said we have two kids and why aren't they enough.
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    He said being biologically related to our kids shouldn't be all that matters to me. I told him I will always be their stepmom and that even though their mom passed
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    away I will forever be stepmom. She will forever be mom. And I want to be someone's mom. I told him that had not changed.
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    He told me I was unreasonable and if I leave then I've destroyed our family and the kids will suffer. He asked how they'd feel knowing they weren't enough for
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    me. He then said I'm enough for them and I said not really. I told him they will always long for memories of their mom which
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    they don't have. They will always crave something I can never give them.
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    He told his family and they started asking me how I could still consider this a dealbreaker and being a true mom would mean I give up on my dream of bio kids and stand by my stepkids and be
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    there even when they see me as not their mom knowing that it's what truly makes me their mom. They said only a monster could make kids lose two mothers.
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    I have tried to find out why he doesn't want to go through fertility treatments. I have the money. I saved before we met for stuff like this because I knew
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    there was always a chance. He tells me the money could be better spent on the family we have and it feels wrong to him to
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    try so hard when we already have two kids and he's not willing to try and change his mind. Well neither am I. WIBTA if I still leave?
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    scruffyrosalie ⚫ 19h ago He's entitled to change his mind. And you're entitled to leave. him because of it.
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